A spoiled child is an enraged child. Children become enraged when their deepest emotional needs get neglected. Most parent advocates argue that firm limit- setting and even punishment is the antidote to spoiling. This is untrue and only ignores the depth of the problem. The ream antidote to spoiling is that parents find ways to meet their children's deepest needs. Figuring out how to gain this capacity is simply too hard for most parents. . Gaining this capacity requires that parents enter realms within themselves that are terrible painful ; the realms of their own unresolved childhood needs which lie dormant in their unconscious mind. But this depth of unconscious is so off-limits most parents that they don't realize it exists. But it does not exist, and the raging child is an externalized manifestation of it. If it were easier for parents to have accessed their own unconscious mind they would have worked on it. They would have gone within and reflected on their own painful truth and even confronted the people who were responsible for it. They would have grieved and ultimately healed through integration. But when this doesn't happen it passes to their children and the wounds never heal. Today we find many children get angry for small things. The parents look confused and have no idea how to deal with it. Over a period of time it gets oit of control.
AImmense needs were fulfilled
BDeepest anxieties were abated
CStrong desires be expressed
DUnconscious mind be soothed